Organ Stimulators

          In 2008, it has become fashionable to become the other woman. Bitches are taking their jump-off status and rocking it like new Gucci stilettos. When did being the other woman become the “in” thing? Years ago, if your grandfather or great-grandfather had a lover on the side, he did his best to not flaunt her in the family’s face. Now the slores of today have no shame, they wear being an adultering whore like a badge of honor taking no accountability for the lives they destroy. I’m not letting the man off the hook at all but right now- I’m addressing the trifling atrocities that are walking around calling themselves women. Many of these women have been in the wive’s or girlfriend’s positions so I’m really having a hard time trying to understand the ease with which these sluts pull off messing around with attached men. What is so appealing about having a man that will never put you first and who will never leave his wife or girl for you? There are those “special” types that honestly want to be the other woman with no attachments but for the most part, most women think they are better than the current woman and feel that they will be or should be the replacement.  WHere is the self-respect and the pride of these whores? How can you be a replacement when you were NEVER at the level of the women he is claiming? How is it boosting your self-esteem when you can’t openly express your feelings, go out in public during regular hours, or even be at family events with the person you say you are loving?  Does THAT sound logical? Not to mention that we are living in a time where wives and girlfriends are setting it off like Queen Latifah- killing the other woman AND the man! Is that a risk women are willing to take for some secondhand dick that probably isn’t that good, anyway? In the days of wifey (which is another label of bullshit), women need to start setting their fucking standards alot higher when it comes to the roles they want to play in relationships. If you wanna be a hoe, work a corner or become an escort! The pay off will be much bigger!

My problem with all of this- where is the standard set for dating or marriage? Women should be the ones that set the tone for the relationship and if a woman is in a relationship why would she want to settle for being second best? I forgot that this is America and  that we are used to being second best and not having any value. Just look at the automotive market….lol  Second in life, competitions, and in general is considered the loser.  There, I guess I answered my own damn question- THESE WOMEN LIKE BEING LOSERS. lmao

In March 2006, I finally made the decision to leave my daughter’s father. There wasn’t any tire-slashing, fighting, cursing  or Mary J. Blige cd playing while I bawled my eyes out and gave him a gazillion reasons why I was leaving. I simply left without a word. I was done- mentally and physically. So it’s been about 2 years since I have had a relationship. Wow- doesn’t seem like it’s been that long until you write it…lol So an analysis of my dating life and a discussion that took place this past Sunday with guy that I know and respect brought me here.  As a single, devoted mother, I am always doing some various activity with my 6-years old which is fine by me because she is a cool lil girl to be around. Well this certain person posed a question to me, “Am I always with her and do I take any “me” time? He then went on to say, that men, especially single men with no dependents, would perceive me to be an overbearing mom.  You’ve seen those types- the moms that overdo everything for their kids, like……..”Oh honey, I made you a sandwich and I cut in little hearts for you!”  or “Baby, are you getting  enough air? Here let me breathe for you!” So hearing this question made me wonder, “Am I like that?” Now when I say that I love my baby girl, she is my air but it isn’t that obsessive love like I have to smell her clothes and sleep with her blankie when she is gone but she is my heart- de verdad!

And that’s not us in the picture…lol My first reaction was irritation to put it mildly because I thought to myself, ” What man wouldn’t want to see a woman being nurturing and loving?” Wouldn’t he think I would be that way to him, also?  I had to think about the many men that are single WITHOUT children. They wouldn’t know this feeling of exuberation when I look into my daughter’s eyes or see her smile……..So I realized that single men fall into the following categories:

THE CAPTAIN SAVE-A-HOE

This pathetic schmuck thinks he can work his way to the kitty by buying the child some high-priced sneakers, outfit, or a  trip to Chuck E. Cheese. These types usually go for the mami with one or multiple children (usually multiple) and she is usually a chick from around the way. This mother usually equates love and nurturing with possessions rather than actually taking a minute to actually TALK to her seeds but ok, let’s get back to him!  From jump, he is Daddy Warbucks throwing the money bait to the unsuspecting prey. He will tell you how he loves kids even if he doesn’t have any…..what the hell? Ladies, when you meet this type, there are 3 questions that should pop into your head.

1. Is this clown a pedophile?

2. What makes you and your child sooooooo special that he wants to just make all of your dreams come true?

3.If he has children, how does he treat and take care of his own?

Yeah he might seem to take on the “burden” of buying shoes, clothes, and other basic needs that Lil  Johnny needs but is it really worth selling your soul and your ass so Johnny can have some new Jordan’s and an Avirex jacket?  I don’t think so.  Many dudes use this tactic because these dumb ass broads have put their children’s and their own values in their coochies instead of keeping that tight so most dudes will just trick off (yes ladies and gents, that’s what it is) a couple of bucks to get the ass and since the guy didn’t directly ask to bone—-ladies feel like he was sooooooooooo nice that, ” I should just give him some because he is handling his business.” He is handling your box and when he’s done, he is going to discard you and Lil Johnny…….and to think you had your seed around this idiot…..tsk tsk tsk *smh*

Next we have….

MR. I DON’T SEE YOUR KID THEREFORE SHE DOESN’T EXIST

In this day and age of FWB (Friends with Benefits), this type of guy looks for that single mami that just wants to do her . He is the dude that doesn’t give a shyt about your kid or his/her needs. He just wants to bone and he disguises it as I just wanna get to know you. The mother that usually gets with this type has just gotten out of a serious relationship or has just lowered her standards to become a jump off because she doesn’t want to be emotionally attached to anyone (which usually doesn’t work). So you are with Mr. Dazzling Debonair and he never asks about your child although that child makes up part of the person that you are. He says he wants to get to know you though…..Well isn’t your child an extension of you? He will do the typical blow off when you mention something as small as, ” Susie got an A in math.”  but if you said your dog was sick, he would be like, “Oh what’s wrong?” lmao Yeah this dude is a trip because while Susie is watching “Dora the Explorer” on the floor of her bedroom, he is exploring the insides of your lovebox with his map in your room…lmao Hold up, heffa- that’s not a good look on your part but we know that there are broads that do it all the time! He will act like your kid doesn’t exist. Do you REALLY want that?

LET’S GET TO KNOW ONE ANOTHER

I know that you are thinking that this is the same guy as above but believe me, IT’S NOT! This is the guy that you hope to find……He will take a genuine interest in you and what comes with you including your child/children. He is a good guy but doesn’t have experience with dating women with children or has limited experience in that dating realm. It’s not to say that he isn’t interested in that part of your life- there is just an order of operations and the child should be not be the first part of that order. I’m not saying don’t mention your child…That’s idiotic. If you have children, that should be the first thing you mention after your name. Who wants a broad that would fail to mention that she has children? It’s not like you failed to mention that you wore a padded bra or a weave, this is your child for Christ’s sake! What the hell is wrong with you? This is the guy that will actually TRY to get to know about you and may or may not have sex on the brain. He is usually understated and would go unnoticed in a crowd but that’s cool because you don’t need distractions as you try to get to know this type. He is a great listener, inquisitive, and open-minded. If you aren’t on that b.s., this would be the guy to get to know.

Which leads me back to my conversation with my guy friend……

I know that many men may look at a single mother that is affectionate and think, “Oh she is waaay to loving with that child and I’m not gonna try to get with that. She wouldn’t have time for me.” This is understandable, to a certain degree and it is a valid concern. However, if you write a woman off because of what you are viewing or perceiving before you actually take the time to SEE if she is really like that then you may be actually missing out on a good thing!  A REAL woman has many faces. She is a mother, a friend, a lover, a confidante, a nurturer, and a freak! lol See how she responds when you offer her a weekend getaway, take her to a cool concert or a romantic evening with just the two of you. You might find that you’ve got a keeper! If she continously turns you down, THEN give her ass the bota!

You know how you know you’re not a real hoe? When you make your whole appearance about how you’re not the N-word, not the B-word, not the H-word, you’re about church and morals and don’t do nude pictures, videos, don’t sleep around carelessly or don’t have more than 10 partners a year- yet in reality, you’re actually DOING all the shiit you claim you don’t support. You make this image like you’re this godly figure, and many of you go overboard. Why? Because you’re conflicted in the head. You don’t know what to be, so this piece is for you confused as to whether or not you’re a real HOE or not. You’re using your misguided anger to try to make moves like you’re someone who moves without emotion/feelings, but ultimately, you’re not cut out for hoe work, and you look stupid and confused! Please decide what you want to be, but if you want a man’s honest opinion of what you look like, with what you’re doing, READ ON!

Many wannabe hoes have been burned in romantic, or what they believe are romantic, relationships where they give a lot of themselves (so they all claim), only to end up hurt, then they proceed on with a lot of disdain for dating/loving, again. To them, I say, YOU NEVER WERE IN LOVE, IT WAS A 1 WAY AFFAIR! Most of you tend to love people who don’t love you back, and put all your eggs in that basket. Stupid! A real hoe wouldn’t do that. But many believe that they gave all they could give, broke their arms, legs and backs to make the love work, and now they’re hurt and put up their walls (boo hoo, papa smurf) . So in defense of being hurt again, they get to a point where they built a nice solid wall around their feelings and don’t want anyone to ever go there again, don’t want to come close to experiencing love again, and if you get too close to making them think about what it means to think about someone and zone out in happiness, they’ll pack their bags and run out on you. They can’t have you making them feel joy, pleasure and comfort that comes with feeling really good about the person you wish to become involved with, nooooo can’t go there again, so they put up a wall, safeguard their hearts, … and offer to just suk your cocck without any emotion involved and no strings attached!!!??? Uhm yes, I just wrote what you just read! See, instead of letting you get to see them, the real them, getting down to the core of what makes them happy, sad, mad,… they would rather put up their wall of insecurity, drop down to their knees, and suk your cocck/ eat you cooch (if are men)- but there is a catch, you can have that, but you have to promise not to go anywhere near the emotional zone. lol I come across so many claiming to be hurt so many times and now they’re shutting down their hearts and just letting the genitalia do all the work. Seriously, you call that DEFENSE? You call that a wall? Spreading yourself thin, PHYSICALLY, so you don’t have to do it mentally/emotionally? huh?? I thought a wall was disassociating from everyone and staying to yourself, not settling for NOT getting what you want, not passing coochie out all over town! OK, we’ll play along. lol

So what does a person like this come to the table with? Well what else? LOL All they feel they have left to offer, or are worth THEIR GENITALS!!! Ooh you mean to say you’re a HOE? Well I’m still not convinced you’re a hoe, you might be a settling for less ’serial dater’ though.

Now, I don’t want to know what you do to get by, day to day, but I think we really need to re-examine the reasons we do these things in dating, that form a pattern, which many of us never are able to break, once we get in a rhythm or believe that technique is working. With regards to this blocking of the heart with an emotional wall protection speech (you know, the “I’m not ready to get serious BECAUSE, blah blah blah….” speech you hear 10 times a day) that everyone seems to have ready when they want to act tough and not seem like the weaklings they really are, crying out for a hug. lol They get that speech ready, like someone full of respect, dignity, and knows what they want in life because all they want to do is get fuked… lol You great decision maker you! lol …. So they will offer you a chance to just have sex with them and ditch them, with no responsibility whatsoever involved, no headaches, no complaining…? Are you people serious? No, the real question is still, LADIES, ARE YOU A REAL HOE THOUGH? You’re playing like you’re the emotionally absent fuk buddy, but can you be a REAL HOE??? I don’t believe 90% of you can be! See, if a woman asks this of a man, a typical dude who doesn’t want anything but poon and then he can disappear until he’s ready to get more poon, HOW THE HELL CAN HE STRIKE OUT WITH THIS KIND OF ARRANGEMENT? You’ve giving him poon with no attachment? He’s there!!! But ten cuidado! What does this breed? It breeds the opportunity to collect more poon, in this same way, from many other women doing the same exact things- AND MANY MANY are making this the norm today! Dudes are actually on the hunt for women doing exactly this (today, over 35 women crowd and under 25 women crowd)! Now, if you’re easy puzzy for a guy, and MANY OF YOU ARE, that means that a dude has a huge variety of free, low-hanging fruit easy puzzy to pick from. There is a the heavy low self-esteem chicks, there is the want to be wild group/cheating fantasy wife group, there is the old women wishing to be young and get unattached d1ck and there is the I HAVE A WALL UP/WANT TO BE A HOE group. There are too many easy puzzy targets out here for a man, so if you’re throwing your hat in the ring too, you better be prepared for the outcome. 1, there is the possibility for a LOT of diseases to be spread!!! Oh, your condom can’t protect them all, lay off that as your excuse! Then you have the fact that if you were a true hoe, YOU WOULDN’T HAVE ASKED THAT GUY TO BE EXCLUSIVE WITH YOU! lol Oh yeah, I know you’re doing it. There is no exclusive relationship for someone who is easy puzzy!! WTF is going on in your mind? You can’t be IN a relationship and OUT of one at that same time! Exclusivity is for relationships, where there is respect for your partner, not for YOU, that one who is only used for sex! See how conflicted you sound? Yeah tell that person your boning that you want to be exclusive, they’ll laugh in your face! And even if they agree, you know very well they’re not honoring it, but as long as they SAID it, your head will believe the fantasy as long as you don’t know. Now that sounds like a hoe, but ultimately a hoe wouldn’t care if that other person exists, you care because you don’t want to know! A real hoe would be working on getting her kids Xbox games from that dude, as hazard pay! lol You go hoe! But you, you’re not a hoe! You’re trying to be a HOE but you don’t want to accept what happens to a hoe. See, a HOE doesn’t get gifts for holidays, valentines, a HOE doesn’t get calls to see how she is doing when she’s sick, or how she feels when her mother dies, a HOE is NOT who a guy brings to Thanksgiving dinner with his family, nor does he spend Xmas with you. A HOE is at the bottom of the barrel. You MIGHT get a call from the dude boning you, after he’s done trying to screw a bunch of other ladies. If he can’t get some azz for the night, you’re the last line of defense, the one that he can fuk then leave that next morning. Yes, you, when all else fails, there’s always your puzzy. bwajajajajaa Oh…? You don’t like role of a hoe? Your ego can’t handle that right? So why are you trying to be one? Yes you are trying to be one! Admit it, know how you know you’re trying to be a hoe?:

1) YOU WANT TO BE HIS ONLY WOMAN, YET YOU DON’T WANT TO BE HIS WOMAN??!!! You’re asking him to be exclusive and TELL YOU if he’s messing with other chicks. You don’t deserve the courtesy, you’re a HOE, remember? A HOE doesn’t do that, it’s not important to her as long as she gets what she came for. You’re number 10 on the night, if he feels like it. If you were a real hoe, you’d accept this.

2) You’re acting like you can just be easy puzzy to a man, but you’re mad that he’s ONLY using you for sex and doesn’t care about anything else related to you. He is selfish, doesn’t care to please you, doesn’t call when he says, is always lying.. if you were a real hoe, you wouldn’t care!

3) You pick a hot guy, and you KNOW he has more girls, even a wife in some cases, and you still fuk him but feel guilty! GUILT is not in a hoe’s manual!

4) You recognize 1 - 3 listed here, and TRY TO COUNTER WHAT HE DOES BY DOING IT YOURSELF! Yes you’re setting out to be like this guy who’s playing you, so you stack many men (you stack weak men not more real playas! You need it for your weak ego lol), don’t call those weak men, make them call you, YOU WANT POWER AND TO LOOK LIKE YOU’RE USING SOMEONE! LOL You’re TRYING to be your interpretation of that man that’s just using you, BUT YOU’RE ONLY DOING THAT BECAUSE YOU’RE HURT AND REALIZE YOU’RE NOT WORTH SHIIT TO ANYONE SO YOU SEEK TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE FEEL AS WORTHLESS AS YOU FEEL! A real hoe wouldn’t be down for games like this. Nothing matters to her, for real, but her objective and she doesn’t have to play like a HOE to counter some guy that shattered her fragile ego.

5) If you’re offended by anything I’ve typed thus far, YOU AREN’T A HOE!!! Hoes can’t read.

YOU’RE NOT A HOE, BUT GOOD NEWS, YOU’RE EASY PUZZY AND A SERIAL DATER!

See this “I’m not looking for anything serious” speech is what the average dude who just wants some poon is looking for, a guilt free opportunity to get steady azz and then find more azz in his down time, and not have to answer for when he decides to bounce, or get caught with another girl. YAY! lol Now, this is dangerous for him, which I’ll explain in a bit, but most importantly, this is an accepted measure of dating to counter getting your heart broken and just ‘passing time’ in a bullshiit relationship, that will be based on nothing, but sex really. I mean, what else is based on- you met in a club, you like the same music, that’s it. You met in a cafe, he was cute, you decided to fuk him for the next 6 months, or whenever he decides you’re boring… typical! These are what most of the relationships TODAY are based on, quick lust/superficiality. There are to be no feelings involved, so you know that it’s based in convenience, using someone and superficiality. What? If there is no emotional ingredient, it IS superficiality, sorry. Now, there is nothing to this relationship, right? So how long you think it will last? Not very long, why? It’s based on superficiality and using the other for whatever you selfish need you want done. The substance that make up relationships isn’t there, thus they die out quickly. These people are lucky if they even make it to 6 months! Really! Most bullshiit relationships don’t last more than 6 months and this is the average for relationships, today, in the USA! That absolutely sucks azz! This means that most people be in a string of bullshiit relationships where you use the other person, just like them for their looks, money, status, car, apartment, and most importantly, SEX- or simply because THEY ARE BORED AND DATE TO HAVE SOMETHING TO DO!!!! Multiply that by 10 years, 20 - 30 years of age, that’s 20+ such bullshiit relationships in 10 crucial relationship skills building years!!!! These are the years you build the relationship skills you’re supposed to have while you think about the person you need to settle down with, if that’s your flow. Women think they can just be the perfect woman with the flip of a switch, like they’re perfect in dating, WRONG!!! You’re horrible if you serial date! …And you can’t tell me that SOOOO many people are in the market to just bone and not think about the future at all. lol That’s crap. So you use that 10 years to piss away your dating experience, or have fun, whatever you call it, then when you get over 30 years of age, you start talking this shiit about NOW it’s time to settle down… hmmm NOW? After 10 years of bullshiit dating? You really think you’re built to do a serious relationship now? You’re not cut out for that you know it, so you TRY to mimic a HOE’s lifestyle!! You’re programmed for short shiitty relationships that don’t make it past 6 months!!! And fate rewards you, by not presenting you with that person you SWORE would be there waiting for you, after you got done playing hot pants all around town. Reality hurts, doesn’t it? So what do you do then? ohhh YOU GO PRETEND TO BE A HOE AGAIN, GIVING UP AZZ TO PEOPLE AND CLAIMING YOU’RE OK WITH IT TURNING A BLIND EYE TO CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS. bwajajajajaja I like that cycle! Yeah that good guy will come around the next time, right? When you’re 50?? bwjajajaja dumb azz! Take a look at 50 year old singles. THAT’S GOING TO BE YOU!!! YOU’RE NO DIFFERENT! This type of action breeds serial daters, and serial daters run from responsibilities, ANY responsibilities (marriage, babies, love, child support…). Women are fueling an outgrowth of irresponsible men, by themselves being so irresponsible today. what a shame… you get what you ask for!

You’ve done nothing but date for bullshiit reasons so that you can avoid being hurt and thought you had an anti-hurt/pro-hoe protection mechanism in place, but you were only fooling yourself! Now, you probably date because you’re used up and BORED- once you’re numb to pain, but you’re so boring yourself that you just settle for whatever and claim you like these kind of relationships. You’re locked into a pattern now, you can’t attract someone worth keeping because you yourself are not worth keeping, in their minds. You are someone who is programmed to sabotage any good relationship, in favor of shiity ones that you are more suited to handle. Yes you are, you are now looking at these very good potential serious candidates and due to your training, reducing them to the same idiots you have always been dating and you say “it won’t last anyway…” Normally, you’re blaming that other person when you say it will fail, really, you’re saying that YOU are so sure that YOU don’t know what you should have and are programmed for bullshit relationships only, that YOU are going to sabotage it! That’s the trick, so you only enter relationships where the other person agrees that they will not have to try to be good or hold you to being a good lover, supporter, etc… it’s SETTLING and being lazy and you’re promoting irresponsible lovers! That leads to a household full of fatherless children and lifetimes of pain. You complain about this shitty life you chose, HOES DO NOT! HOES are desensitized to all of this, THIS IS THE LIFE THEY GREW UP IN AND AREN’T DEVASTATED BY IT! You’re not a hoe, stop trying to play the part, you just don’t deserve a real relationship is all- but that doesn’t make you a hoe! You’re just an intolerable person! lol